Updated: Apr 11, 2020
We can agree, we should give from our hearts without expectation. However, gratitude should be a reaction to giving. When people go out of their way to give, make sacrifices and/or show up in your time of need, showing gratitude is the least we can do to say thank you.
You may not be able to pay them back, show up for them, or make the sacrifice to help them in their time of need, but it's free to show gratitude. A phone call to say hi is free, a text message to check in and let them know how you're doing is free.
In reality people are connected to the people they love and they only think of others when they are in need. They show unconditional love to the people that make them comfortable and distance themselves from those that are there to help and motivate them to be better. Not by force but by pure existence, because birds of a feather flock together.
Unconditional love is love without condition. Holding someone in your heart not for gain, advantage, favors, or a shoulder to cry on, you hold them there out of love, unconditional love.
When you take advantage of the people that love and care for you, you create a condition that forces the person to be guarded and protective of their heart. You create a condition that forces them to love from a distance.
The Bible says, love is patient, kind and long suffering. Long suffering is when you continue to love in spite of troubles. The Bible also says, "above all else, guard your heart..." If you don't, the people that take without gratitude will continue to break the heart you unconditionally love them with. Love is reciprocal so love those that love you, unconditionally.